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Adoptee Search, How I Found My Siblings from DEVIL at my Doorstep by Randy Faulk
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After finding my three younger siblings and "Baby Boy" Faulk (not his real name, and which was changed by the four childrens' adoptive parents), my dad and I attempted to find my baby sister, who was only about seven months of age, when my dad and I last saw her in July of 1958.
My dad and I looked and looked through the State District Court Docket for any mention of "Baby Girl"Faulk's name, but could not find anything. You are probably wondering why I do not call my younger siblings and my youngest sister by name. The reason is simple. I was warned by the now adult younger brother to never use his name nor that of his adoptive parents. I also suppose that my youngest sister, also an adult, could feel the same way about my using her name and/or that of her adoptive parents. So to keep peace in the family...Isn't it interesting that "use" is an anagram, whose letters also spell "sue"?
Then it hit me! I recalled a picture of the 4 children who visited me at the Protestant Children's Home in San Antonio in June of 1959, shortly after I had my tonsils removed. But where was the baby girl? She was not in that picture! So dad and I went BACKWARDS from July of 1959 and found her adoption records in the Spring of 1959 when she was adopted by another family, after her first being in the family's "foster care" for a few months. My sister bugged me for 11 years to try to find our baby sister, but I ran into a dead end. I was sitting in my office in my mobile home in Marion, Texas when I received a phone call from a man with the "International Soundex Reunion Registry." He asked me my name and asked me if I had a sister by the name of my littlest sister. I said yes to both questions, he told me that my baby sister had recently registered with Soundex, and as soon as her record was entered into the system, there was an instant match. She had found me! You will have to wait until my books are published to find out the rest...Just a hint...August 21,1993 was the first time since late July of 1958 that all six children were together. This August 21, 1993 date is significant because it was my parents's 50th wedding anniversary!
The following day, I showed my three sisters one of several house in which my parents and I had lived.Then we drove to the Bexar County Courthouse and went up to the Third Floor to the State District Court Clerk's office, where I showed them the very District Court Record in which I had found their names in 1993. The irony of this story was that just as I was showing my three sisters their names, a Deputy District Clerk, whose name was Tom, came up and told me that those Records were not to be opened and read by the general public, and that in fact, the District Court Records were considered to be "sealed" by the District Court.
I pointed to each of my three sisters and told Tom that I had found these three women eleven years earlier in this very District Court Record, which Tom was taking from my hands!
We drove to Seguin, Texas, which is about sixty miles from San Antonio and for the first time since July of 1958, the three women met Bob and Lucille. Lucille was in a nursing home, and Bob lived about twelve miles away, in McQueeney, Texas.
So there you have it...blessings can happen when the Holy Ghost intervenes on your side, as it did on mine.
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I know this sounds silly, but hear me out! I "honed" my detective skills by playing the children's board game, CLUE, which is based on deductive reasoning or the process of elimination, or both.
In the game of CLUE, there are 9 rooms in Mr. Body's mansion. There are 6 suspects and 6 weapons. The 6 suspects are Ms. Scarlett, the red piece; Mr. Green, the green piece; Professor Plum, the purple piece; Colonel Mustard, the yellow piece; Mrs. White, the white piece; and Mrs. Peacock, the blue piece. The 6 weapons are: the rope, the wrench, the candlestick, the knife, the handgun, and the lead pipe. The object of the game is to determine the suspect, the room in which the suspect killed Mr. Body, and the weapon used in the murder. By clever moves and deduction, you can discover the suspect, the room and the weapon, by process of elimination, which actual detectives use in their criminal investigations. The secret is to use what you have to discover what you need.
As I got better and better in solving the mysteries in the CLUE board game, I determined how I was going to find my 2 younger brothers and 3 younger sisters. I have already told you, in the preceeding paragraphs, how I achieved my goals. Persistence coupled with resourcefulness and INSPIRATION achieves much!
If I can be of service to you in your search, please email me at rfaulk@stic.net with your request and/or questions.
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"Legacy of an Adopted Child"
Once there were two women who never knew each other. One you do not remember, the other you call Mother. Two different lives shaped to make your one. One became your guiding star, the other became your sun. The first gave you life, and the second taught you to live it. The first gave you a need for love, and the second was there to give it. One gave you a nationality, the other gave you a name. One gave you the seed of talent, the other gave you aim. One gave you emotions, the other calmed your fears. One saw your first sweet smile, the other dried your tears. One sought for you a home that she could not provide, The other prayed for a child and her hope was not denied. And now you ask me through your tears The age-old question through the years, Heredity or environment--- Which are you the product of? Neither, my darling---neither; Just two different kinds of love.
---Author Unknown
(Editor's Note: While searching my journals for another article, I came across this poem. I was so moved by it, and knowing how very much the Adoptive Parents loved and cared for my three brothers and two sisters, and how so very much my mother loved her childred, I wanted to share this poem with you, my readers. Lucille Faulk gave them life, and their Adoptive Parents gave them a life. 26 September 2007 -Randy Faulk, the Editor.)
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I welcome your comments, questions and suggestions. Thanks! |
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